I'd like to start this post by saying that most people are stupid. People want to see what isn't there and to ignore what is there. We all crave illusion, at the expense of reality. We never stop to consider that by accepting reality, we might be accepting the route through which me might reach everything that we hope for from the illusion.
I know that seems vague, but let's take a look at some examples that might make this more clear. First, we'll examine a poem by William Blake. Why should we look at this poem first? Hell, why should we look at it at all? The reason is because it illustrates a problem that many people view as modern, but that has really always existed. Also, it is a classic example of how dumb people really are. Most people consider this to be a love poem. Ha! They are looking for the illusion that is found in pretty words and promises.
My Pretty Rose Tree
A flower was offered to me,
Such a flower as May never bore;
But I said 'I've a pretty rose tree,'
And I passed the sweet flower o'er.
Then I went to my pretty rose tree,
To tend her by day and by night;
But my rose turned away with jealousy,
And her thorns were my only delight
For those of you who don't get it, let me break it down for you. A young woman came on to the guy. She was basically saying, "If you want me, I'm yours." She was someone new to his life, so they hadn't developed much of a relationship yet, but he saw something special in her and really felt something for her. However, the guy turned her down because he already had a pretty wife and what he thought was a solid relationship. He stayed committed to his wife and did everything he could to show he loved her, but he was probably trying a bit too hard. His wife did not care that he had stayed faithful. She was jealous, probably because his actions showed he was trying to be in the marriage, but that he wanted something else. Because of this, she ended up treating him like crap. Sadly, he was fine with that, because he had chosen his "happy, solid marriage", even if the happiness and the solidity of the relationship were just an illusion.
Now, let's look at this in terms of people we know. Think about your group of friends. I'm sure you know people who are cheating on their significant others or people who have had the opportunity to cheat. I'm sure you know cheaters who actually have feelings for the people they cheat with, but stay with the people they are involved in relationships with because they have "history" or because they are too scared to examine their current feelings and realize that what they feel for their partner has changed over time.
Blog friends, people are idiots. I say this with love because I have many friends who currently find themselves in this exact scenario. They are wonderful people, but they are idiots. We've probably all been idiots at one time or another.
I used to think that cheating was absolutely 100% wrong. As it turns out, I was wrong. Cheating is sometimes wrong and sometimes right. Before you hunt me down and kick the shit out of me, please listen to why.
In circumstances where you know you don't love the person you are with and you know you have real feelings for the person you could cheat with, cheating is wrong. Dump the person you are with and just pursue something with the new person. In circumstances where you are in love with the person you are with and you are considering cheating with someone that you don't think you have any real feelings for, please, go see a shrink. You are deluding yourself somehow. Either you're not really in love with your current significant other or you do have feelings for the other person. If you are 100% sure of a situation, there is no reason to cheat. Either you are going to stay in your relationship or you are going to end it and pursue something with the other person.
Unfortunately, not all circumstances are that black and white. The shades of gray are what make cheating acceptable...for the short-term anyway. Maybe you are in a relationship and you are not quite sure how you feel anymore. You have been together a long time and you used to be in love with the person, but now someone new is causing you some inner-conflict. You know you have a definite desire for that new person, but you're not sure what is driving that desire...love or lust (or, more likely, "like" or lust). You might not want to make a choice until you are sure. You don't want to end a relationship unless you are sure the person isn't really "the one". Meanwhile, you don't want to let the new person go if you think there is any chance that person could be "the one" or that person could at least be someone you'll really fall for. One of my friends put it best the other day when she said, "What are you supposed to do if you meet 'the one' while you are with someone else? Are you supposed to just let him walk away because the timing is inconvenient and because you are confused about how you feel? That's ridiculous!" Personally, I agree. That's ridiculous! Just a hint, the relationship is the illusion and the cheating would be with the real thing. Eventually, that cheating could lead to a happy, solid relationship with the new person and you could even find that all of your dreams come true...complicated story, but very happy ending.
Obviously, this is question time. Then, I will explain how this post relates to our wonderful goal.
-Would you ever cheat on someone, just to try to find out what is real and what is illusion?
-Do you think it is ok with people cheating, in order to find out what is real and what is illusion?
-Would you be ok with being "the other person" while a new partner tries to figure out what is real and what is illusion?
Now, how does cheating help our goal of everyone getting laid this week? Duh, isn't it obvious?! Raise your hand if you are finding yourself in a situation where you have the chance to be the cheater or the chance to be the other person. Raise your hand if you really want to go for it, but your morals and Rikki Lake's voice are holding you back ("Once a cheater, always a cheater."). Just because the only love or satisfaction Rikki has ever found is in a box of donuts, doesn't mean you have to doom yourself to a life of regret. Yes, I said regret. You will always wonder if you made the right choice in not trying to find out what exactly is there. You will look back on that choice 30 years later and literally kick yourself in the ass. So, my advice to you is simple...GET OUT THERE AND GIVE IT A TRY! Forget your morals for a night and go see if that person is really what you want. Then, anonymously, leave a comment and let us know how it turned out. At least you won't have to look back on this with regret...unless you use names in the comment...please don't let a blog be the reason that some angry bitch/douche tracks you down and cuts you. This is all about the love, so let's keep it that way.
Oh yeah, if Avril is cool with it, then it must be good.
You're so fine, I want you mine,
Evil Temptress
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